Posted by AdaGrace on May 20, 2005, at 6:17:32
The male mind is so unlike ours. It is so different. We may all makes jokes and laugh about the "typical" man, but in the end it really is about differences that are instilled or even hereditarily bread into the male species. Hunters, gatherers, controler, lords, coaches, rulers, etc. The superiority of being a male gives them an awesome advantage in the work force, and most often times in a relationship. However there in lies the disadvantage as well. Because of the "ME" status men often become selfish and therefore unnurturing in a relationship. They love, of course they do, but in the same respect they love themselves, their status, their goals, and of course their free time. "I'm going hunting" is often heard, but not followed by, "I'll have my cell phone on if you need me." or "I'll be home in exactly one hour" The interesting thing is the "Stepford Wife" might say "Is it okay if I go out with friends tonight?" and is often followed by "Who else is going?" "When will you be home?", and of course "Have your cell phone on in case I need to get ahold of you" and of course they need to get ahold of you. If only to ask you where the laundry soap is, and did you get the car serviced today, and the most important thing.........they call, just to make sure you are having a good time, and then use that information for future nights out with the boys as justification. Go shopping all day, and find them going out gambling or barring the next day or night. Their free time is justified. Ours is questioned.
Oh my, this is about me. Me only and my situation. There probably isn't any other men out there who control the household like mine.Control. That's really what it is all about isn't it. Control. Control of our behavior, control of our thoughts as well. I love it when a man contradicts how I feel. "You shouldn't be feeling that, there is no reason for you to feel that way"...........etc, etc, etc.
AdaGrace
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