Posted by Larry Hoover on May 23, 2005, at 22:47:23
In reply to Re: my ex has my son- I'm familiar with them... » Larry Hoover, posted by sunny10 on May 23, 2005, at 14:39:55
> yes, I am talking about equality in a relationship- that's really all. I happen to be female, my SO (past and present) happen/s to be male thus the "men in my life" terminology.
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> For all I know, some women do this, too. I just don't happen to be intimate with other women.
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> I really didn't mean to offend by my questions.Sunny, I wasn't ever offended. I became vigilant. It's because of my baggage. That's not your doing.
> This is the second time in three days that I have managed to offend someone with the WAY I was trying to ask questions...
When I answered, I found myself expressing some of my own buried feelings of hurt. It was cathartic. I was mortgage-free at 32 years of age. I lost a lot after my marriage failed.
> I think I better content myself with being ignorant... this "me learning things" is apparently too dangerous for those around me..Please don't stop. We learn from one another, by doing this. This is a male-female interaction thing. It takes contributions from both sides.
> I was generalizing, yes. But I didn't mean to stereotype- that's the difference I was trying to point out, but keep failing miserably.*I* chose to be very explicit about sterotyping. It is very important for me to do that. I didn't feel stereotyped. I had to be clear about what it was for myself. For my own reasons.
> Ever since I was on Effexor XR and have weaned off of it, I just don't make sense anymore...I don't do it on purpose- really.
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> Sorry.I'm sorry too, Sunny.
I respect you very much. And I repeat, I was never offended. I was vigilant.
Lar
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