Posted by alexandra_k on January 28, 2006, at 22:31:46
In reply to Re: Social Anxiety, posted by Judith22 on January 27, 2006, at 20:57:13
> don't let those guys keep you inside.
Aw they are okay. It isn't that other people do anything with the intention of making me feel unwelcome. It is more that I feel afraid so I shut myself away. Habit from childhood...
> What I've learned recently is that some people understand and some people don't. The people who understand are the ones who are worth it.
Yeah.
I used to think... That labels weren't helpful. But this one... Does seem to be helping me. I wouldn't feel embarrassed / ashamed saying that I get a little socially anxious if someone commented on my social skills / behaviour. I mean... It lets people know that it is me feeling anxious. Not me trying to be a snob, or me not having a good time or whatever. And yeah, people who don't understand feeling a little anxious around people sometimes... Well I probably won't have a lot in common with them lol.
It also makes sense of the hot flushes / fainting thing. The worst thing was that when I felt that coming on I used to try running to someplace I could lie down. A friend told me not to run. Rather, to crouch and take fairly deep even breaths. That helped. No more blacking out after that :-)
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