Posted by LegWarmers on January 26, 2006, at 20:36:29
In reply to Re: Social Anxiety » LegWarmers, posted by alexandra_k on January 26, 2006, at 18:24:37
> Well... I have a couple friends from work who I really will try my best to keep in touch with. Last time I went for a couple months... I was sending them emails, and they weren't really responding, though. I think we are so close... Because we are in the same office so we are just kind of together a lot of the time and we organise other stuff in virtue of us being together a lot of the time. If I'm not around them then even though I email them... We sort of do lose touch.
Yeah, I do tht with people sometimes. Its hard to keep up.
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> And as for my other friends... The only thing holding that together (truth be told) is drugs. So those connections... Are probably better off severed. I really want to leave that part of my life behind me.ah
> Yeah. I try and do that. And when I get really very anxious (I think that is what that is about) then I take a couple days off 'sick'. It is hard if we are out in public though. In a restaraunt or something. You know... I used to have these spells. I've just realised... Watching the Soprano's lol... Anxiety. Doesn't happen very often but I have been known to have a dizzy spell and fall over :-(
>oh no! That would be awful, I didn't know anxiety could make you pass out. I guess it makes sense
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> Yeah. I was there for three months a couple years back. When I first discovered Babble actually :-) So the department is familiar and some of the people there will be familiar. Mostly it will be around... Accomodation. And social obligations. They also have a lot of people visiting for a while (and social obligations around that). But it is a relief to me that I have been there before and know my way around the campus / city a little and that there will be a few familiar (and friendly) faces. I'm really rather glad... That I didn't get into the US. I think... That would have been too much for me.
I don't think it would have been too much for you, but it might have been very overwhelming! It will be nice having that history in Oz, Im sure they will be very welcoming as well.>
> Looks like accommodation is fairly scarce so people want to interview you properly. I have issues around being a fairly bad, a-social flatmate in general and worrying that I'm inflicting myself on people... How fair is it for me to try and get people to let me join their flat? I worry about that. But... It is just something that I have to do. Apparantly... I come across fairly well in an interview type situation. It is only once people get to know me lol.
Im sure you are great in interviews, Maybe you could tell people that you are a quiet person and look for flats that have people who are also looking for other quiet people. Do they have online ads? I'd check for that. "Inflict your self" :( DO NOT THINK LIKE THAT!!! :) ok?
> No. But I do know how to do mindfulness meditation which is a form of relaxation. I keep meaning to take that up again... I should do that. I really really should. Because it does help. And yeah. It takes some time before you start to really notice a benefit so I really should get on to that today.
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Yeah, good idea! no yoga or anything like that? Its really very helpful also.> Yeah. I know that rationally. But emotionally... Different story. I also have trouble with controlling / modulating my facial expression.
Im very expressive as well, whether it accurately represents how I feel or not may be a differnet story lol I undestnad that feeling though
>I wear my emotions on my sleeve and am really very transparant with those. It is really very hard for me to modulate that and next to impossible for me to mask that and smile appropriately when I feel afraid / down.
Its hard, for me it depeneds on the situation. But I imagine if I am very anxious, I show it. Would taking a benzo help any with that?
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> Hopefully... 17th Feb.ohhhh so soon :) how exciting!!
Have yet to book flights. Have been waiting on accommodation. But... Shall talk to parents early next week and book flights. And backpackers. Looks like I'll need to stay there for a week while I find something... Take me a week to look probably too. So I'll be starting at the department a week later than I would have liked. And that only gives me a week to find something eep! They are asking around as to whether there is anyone in the department I can stay with temporarily / perminantly... But worst case... Backpackers...How frustrating to not have a place to go :( that would really make me anxious too. Hhopefully you will get lucky, an dfind something soon.
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> Thanks
> ((((((Legwarmers))))))
> You really are much better at this stuff than me...
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> Thank you.
>You really don't have anything to worry about! You are a very likabe person (((Alex))) Id be big time nervous! Its really brave what you are doing. Really!
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