Posted by alexandra_k on January 27, 2006, at 4:54:25
In reply to Re: Social Anxiety, posted by Judith22 on January 26, 2006, at 19:10:57
> I know exactly what you meanw hen you say you hang out with people you don't like that much because they are the only people around. I am the same way!
Yeah. There are other people around who I could get to know... But I don't feel comfortable enough to get to know them. Currently... I'm living in a house / cottage in a group / community of four houses / cottages. And there are people in the other cottages. International students from Canada and Germany and the Pacific Islands and India etc. And they are fairly recent arrivals mostly. And they are looking for friends. And they just pop into each others cottages and play cricket and stuff like that. And I just... Walk past with my head down because I feel really afraid of them. I know a couple of the guys a bit and they invited me over one night when there were a fair few people over there drinking. And I went over... And everyone was really friendly. And they said that... They thought I was a snob. That I didn't want to know them because I never joined in. And I said it really wasn't personal, it is just that I'm in my head a lot of the time and I'm not so much aware of whats going on around me. And that is fairly much the truth except that I typically do notice groups of people... And I avoid them, yeah.
:-(
And since then... I've kept on avoiding them
:-(
But then I guess it is also true that I don't have a lot in common with any of them. And I'm really not so good at social chat
:-(
My friends... Are familiar. Most of them I've known for... Like 5 or 6 or 7 or 10 years. And the drugs... Instant connection. Instant good feelings around people. And there it is.
> I go to this website for social anxiety and it's weird...some people have myspace accounts and they openly admit to having social anxiety. I don't think I could ever do that.No. I don't like people knowing I have mental health issues in general...
>But I do think one should embrace their social anxiety and be honest with themselves about it. Say, when you are meeting people or conversing with people, think to yourself "this is awkward and uncomfortable for me." But don't think about running away. It makes me feel better at least.
Yeah. Acknowledge and accept the feelings... I know I only make it worse if I start beating myself up for 'just being stupid' etc.
> Here's a book that's pretty good: "diagonally parked in a parallel universe"
That does look good. I think I'll try and get hold of that. Thanks.
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