Posted by alexandra_k on January 26, 2006, at 17:47:50
In reply to Re: Social Anxiety, posted by Berberis on January 26, 2006, at 9:27:13
> I could be in a room of friends and family and feel totally isolated; afraid to interact, afraid I'll look like an idiot; afraid everyone will know I'm a loser.
Yeah. When I'm around a new bunch of people I freak out the most. Even when things seem to be going well. And when it is really important to me to feel accepted by them... That is when it is the hardest for me.
Also... My background... I'm not so used to eating out at restaurants and going to (comparatively) civilised parties and dinner parties and stuff like that. Don't really have much of a restaurant schema lol. So those situations... Provoke the most anxiety. Typically... I avoid those situations. Though I'm torn with work stuff which involves all that. I really want to fit in and so I go but it is really very hard and I guess I'm not the most stimulating companion because I clam up.
> I stink at this support stuff. That's why I don't often reply to other's posts.I don't think you stink at it. You are doing a good job :-) I guess this kind of stuff... Gets easier in time. Or... Thats how the theory goes at any rate...
> The only other thing I can say...Alexandra, you are one of the brightest, kindest people here. You help others immensely (IMO).<blush>
Typically I ignore those kinds of comments and hope they go away. But... Thats not so good for social connection I guess :-( Thanks for you kind words.
> I see it and I bet others IRL see it too. You just have to see it and believe it yourself.
Thank you.
It helps a lot to know I am not alone with this.
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