Posted by Karen_kay on January 22, 2004, at 9:07:57
OK, so I told him I googled him and he was fine with that. Very understanding. I told him I found a pic of his wife an he denied it, saying that if I found a picture of his wife he would know it as there was something different about his wife that stands out. I said, "OK, I'm glad I didn't find a picture of your wife." Then, being stupid as I am, I said, "Are you listed in the phone book, under your wife's name. And your wife has a different name?" He freaked out! He said, "How did you know that?" He got online and googled himself and foudn the picture and denied it was his wife but closed out quickly. I knew it was his wife. He then admitted it was his wife and said, "Well, know you know my phone number and adress." I said, "Well, I haven't driven by or called, have I?" He admitted he just freaked out because other people could have access to this info so easily (SO WHAT?).
So, we talked aobut his wife and I said she was lovely (I lied). I promised I wouldn't call him and he pulled the whole BPD out of his pocket.
Then I started talking about how much I like the fantasy of him and he said his brother was happily married. He talk aobut his brother alot too. I asked about my Pdoc, but alas he's married also. Bubbba said that he wouldn't want em to get involved with him. I said that we could discontinue therapy and 2 years later meet up again. He laughed and I pressed the issue harder. He finally said it wouldn't happen. I didn't talk too much about him crossing boundaries. We had a 1.5 hour session.
Oh, I found out that he does sit around the house in his underpants and frequently used to clean naked until he had kids. And therapists talk about sports and training techniques. I'm being alot more honest aobut my feelings during sessions. I guess it's a start, but why do I feel so crappy. He was very happy I told him about googling him, so he could try to remove the pic. He knows I'm harmless. He says he's just worried about others. I didn't get that impression.
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