Posted by Catmom on January 24, 2004, at 23:28:39
In reply to Sorry if eyes go buggy, doozie here!, posted by Karen_kay on January 24, 2004, at 11:43:38
Karen, You are in a really complicated situation wtih Bubba. That's not a bad thing, in my opinion. We can end up learning a whole lot about ourselves if we allow ourselved to acknowledge into consciousness fantasties about the therapist. It also can illuminate your own concerns if you analyze the particular things you WANT to know.
On the other hand, some of the stuff you've posted about Bubba make me fear that he's not being consistent with you. I don't know that perfect 100% consistency is ever possible: we don't want an automatic machine as a therapist.
I think that B's flirtations with you (and I would call his manner in at least some of the instances you've described inappropriately seductive (although maybe I'm just being a prude).
We need to navigate through a world of mixed messages and ambiguities. It's best, I feel, if the therpist and his or her office "frame" are consistent, appropriate, and reassuring without provoking more inconsistency.
I hope that you find this a support for you because that's what I am hoping to do: offer my support for you to bring up whatever thoughts, desires, etc. you might have.
Also I agree that this is an age when so many people are googling so many others, that I don't think it's surprising, inappropriate, or wrong. Google is a public record; and I believe that people CAN remove some google references if they want to do so.
Best of luck to you; I can certainly empathize with all you are going through.
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