Posted by Rigby on January 22, 2004, at 9:57:43
In reply to Bubba (my therapist) freaked out!!, posted by Karen_kay on January 22, 2004, at 9:07:57
Hi Karen,
This sounds **intense.** You did him a favor actually by pointing all this out. It sounds like he was in a decent amount of shock. An ex-boyfriend of my therapist put up a page-from-hell, complete with horrible pic of her from like 30 years ago! I told her and she was so embarassed but greatful. It was really awkward though and it involved me confessing that I Googled her. But as others have pointed out, *everyone* should ego-surf to see what's out there on them--especially therapists.
My sense in general is that therapists are quite scared of tapping into stalker-clients. It almost seems hair-trigger but I get that impression. I suppose it's a risk and fear that might come with the territory. I've opted to not tell my therapist anything about what I might know relative to her address,etc.--I'd never go there but I don't even want her to be concerned about it. And it also feels like something from like a year ago when I was more obsessed with her and wasn't "getting" the whole transference thing vs. in reality me having a for real thing for her.
Also, I am wondering about the cleaning naked disclosure. I think it's fine for you to push boundaries as much and as often as you feel like--it's *your* therapy. But why does Bubba give in so much? Maybe you're his favorite but most or least favorite I wonder how this helps you? Dunno. Just seemed off. If I were you I'd be sorta thrilled that I could "break" the guy--could get this info out of him, could get him to move his boundaries--at first. But ultimately that kinda thing can come back to bite you. It's hard because you're not supposed to be monitoring *his* behavior but based on some of your posts maybe part of you likes the attention but another part is questioning if this is off or not.
Anyway, just my $.02. Good luck with Bubba!
Rigby
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