Posted by gardenergirl on May 3, 2005, at 1:44:07
In reply to Re: On the other hand..., posted by sunny10 on May 2, 2005, at 23:05:42
You can also try journalling or setting aside a designatd worry hour or so for when you are "scheduled" to think about it. Then when you find yourself thinking about, remind yourself that you will, when the time for it comes up.
Journalling can help to help you do sort of a "brain dump". Sometimes this helps.
Also, you could try prescribing the symptom. Tell yourself that you are prescribed to worry and think about it as much as you possibly can. At some point then, you will find you get tired of it, and it becomes less intense.
These are some ways to deal with stopping thoughts.
Meditation is good, too. Don't make you goal as trying to achieve thinking of nothing. Think of it as allowing thoughts to float by like clouds. You just notice them if they interrupt, and let them float by. And go right back to your mantra or other form of meditation.
Good luck sweetie. And have him start telling you where he's going to be and when, and phoning in to report. It's a bit like a grounded adolescent, but this is the way for him to earn your trust back...by demonstrating enough times when he IS doing what he tells you he's doing. At some point you won't need him to check in so much. But this is the way to actively earn trust back.
((((sunny))))
gg
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