Posted by Damos on May 3, 2005, at 22:18:23
In reply to Re: On the other hand..., posted by sunny10 on May 3, 2005, at 14:19:07
I greatly admire your strength, courage, tenacity and the way you long to love and be loved among other things. You amaze me Sunny you really do.
The only thing I can suggest that I have learned too slowly over way to long is to release my emotional attachment to whether X or Y happens or not. I don't love any less (at least I try not to) I just try not to live waiting for a call and loading whether I get one or not up with all kinds of other stuff that I have no control over. Fail at it over and over again but I try and it helps.
You've done so much more that I think I could have in your place and I just hope your SO realises what a precious love he's risking. Only he can decide whether the agreements, commitments and boundaries you've made are as important to him as they are to you and whether your feelings are important enough to him to acknowledge, honour and respect. You've done all you can, and as hard as it is you need to try and let it unfold in whatever way it will.
Hoping for good things for you Sunny, only good things.
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