Posted by Tamar on May 2, 2005, at 17:45:17
In reply to Re: looking for calming exercises or something » sunny10, posted by Susan47 on May 2, 2005, at 15:54:17
> Quit sleeping with him, god damn it. What the hell do you think you're doing? He could be out there doing ANYTHING honey, he hasn't given anything but words to confirm otherwise. And he's all about lying, you already know that, that was confirmed too. You're giving him cheap, easy sex and you expect ANYTHING to change? Rant over, I apologize to you before you even post back, if you do. Because that was really really strongly worded. I know that. And I could've made it sound worse, but I didn't. Honey, men are all about sex much of the time. I think I might've finally learned that. Truly, with my head.
Women need sex too. And as well as giving him sex you're also getting sex.
But I do agree that it's awkward because you're in a somewhat anomalous situation. You've gone from a situation that has all the trappings of security (living together) to less security (dating). No wonder you don't feel secure about his sexual fidelity.
It sounds as if the situation is pushing all your buttons. It takes a long time to rebuild trust of any kind, so don't be too hard on yourself. If you need reassurance from him, can you ask for it? Repeatedly? Sometimes that's what it takes.
Tamar
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