Posted by Piquet on September 29, 2004, at 5:51:14
In reply to Re: Anvil Resistant Headwear? » Piquet, posted by ron1953 on September 28, 2004, at 22:58:34
> Piquet:
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> Can't easily step on toes here - it's all public. My post to Jane was just in the interest of avoiding confusion.
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> Back to the relationship thing. You said your ex was normal, yet she couldn't leave her work at the office, to the detriment of her personal life and you. And as a professional, one would think she should know better. But she's just another human like the rest of us. My good friend, who's a psychiatrist waited FOUR years after his separation, certain that his wife would return. Only when she started living with another man did reality finally sink in. I guess what I'm saying is that while I understand your concern (similar to mine), the question is moot. The variables are endless. Not to sound like a broken record (an expression that only has meaning to geezers like us), I think Harville Hendrix addresses the REAL issues we've faced and will face again. I'll be very interested in your thoughts about the book. Whether you agree or disagree with his ideas, etc., I'm sure you'll find it interesting. BTW, a friend of mine has a T-shirt that says, "My next wife is going to be normal". You should see the stares and faces that creates!
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> RonHi Ron. That's a pretty funny T-shirt. I wouldn't be able to wear one and look anyone in the eye, though. Besides, I think we're in agreement that we'd be excluding a very high percentage of the females of our species if we insisted on normality. (Before I get castigated -- or some similar sounding word -- let me just add that the same would be true regarding men.) I think that most people tend to think of themselves as being normal if they haven't been diagnosed with a mental illness, in the same way that someone will call himself or herself a Christian on the strength of being born in a nominally Christian country -- regardless of whether or not they actually practise their religion.
Well, my ex hadn't been a psychologist for long and she lacked experience in utilizing burn-out prevention strategies and I was the one who ended up burnt-out. Actually, she burned out a few years later. I'm part-way through the magazine interview, and I'm going to try to finish it tomorrow. My concentration is a little scattered at the moment, so I've been applying myself to more active things, like doing chores and spending money.
Piquet.
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