Posted by 64Bowtie on September 27, 2004, at 13:58:57
In reply to Anvil Resistant Headwear?, posted by Piquet on September 25, 2004, at 6:56:58
Piquet,
> I ask this because I have always tended to avoid women with similar problems to my own on the basis that we might end up less like yin and yang and more like nitro and glycerine. On the other hand, my relationships with those who were more mentally stable have never lasted, and I admit that this has mostly been because of my depressive episodes.
><<< If you sit quietly, hands folded on your lap, no "electronics", and no distracting "nouns" (people, places, things, ideas), can you picture what the conflict was for your last depressive event? Who are you obligated to, besides yourself? Who has promised things to you so you are waiting and expecting them to deliver? Can you see past feelings in order to see a clear picture of who you are? At 52, are you resolved to keep the status quo? How much pain will you have to endure before saying enough is enough?
<<< I'm not important in this drill. Please don't answer these questions to me. Answer them for yourself. They're not complicated. But they can be habit forming if done right.
Rod
PS: failure in my own eyes can be reason enough for onset of depression. Perhaps I have no moment when I was willing to slate my depression, I only felt depressed. I have a choice what to do now. I recognise the outcroppings, and steer-clear. I vigorously steer-clear of "noun" outcroppings that fit my picture of "bad" times. As you find yourself, the answers to your questions about relationships will answer themselves. You won't settle for "wrong" anymore.
poster:64Bowtie
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