Posted by Piquet on September 25, 2004, at 17:08:15
In reply to Re: Anvil Resistant Headwear?, posted by Catgirl on September 25, 2004, at 10:52:10
> I've just come from a relationship where I was the depressed/anxious one. I felt misunderstood and guilty about being a "downer" to him. He even did things that greatly aggravated my issues.
> Maybe it's possible to find someone who's a really good, "normal" person with the capacity for tremendous empathy?Hi Catgirl,
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience. Perhaps it's good that it ended, especially if the things he did to aggravate your issues were done deliberately. I too have felt guilty and blamed myself in relationships -- sometimes, I suspect, when it wasn't really justified: but that's the nature of my illness. Sometimes it seems to me that a person's capacity for empathy and understanding is linked to how much that person has suffered in their life, and how they've dealt with it. If that were true, then finding a "really good, "normal" person with the capacity for tremendous empathy" might be difficult, but perhaps this is also a part of my wrong thinking on the subject.
I appreciate your response Catgirl, it's already got me thinking!
Piquet.
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