Posted by Piquet on September 28, 2004, at 7:25:46
In reply to Re: Anvil Resistant Headwear? » Piquet, posted by ron1953 on September 27, 2004, at 9:23:26
> Hi again!
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> Actually, I came to a conclusion a long time ago. NOBODY'S normal, whatever "normal" is. Some just think they are. Since I don't believe in normal, Santa Claus or the Easter bunny, I really think we're all "troubled". I think it's all a matter of self-awareness or lack of it.
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> Now, with the anticipation of a new relationship after nearly 30 years of marriage, my main concern and priority is whether a prospectve partner has a realistic understanding, acceptance and commitment to the hard work involved in nurturing and maintaining a vital relationship. I agree with Hendrix that marriage can be a very rewarding environment where a great deal of healing and personal growth is possible. But again, it's a lot of hard work that I think most people aren't up to. I think that's why so many marriages fail. My ex wasn't up to it, so she bailed. I think it's likely that an extremely troubled person wouldn't be up to the task, and the relationship would be doomed from the start.
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> Ron
Hi Ron, Piquet here. I just logged in and got rather confused with the various posts on this thread, so I hope I'm not treading on any toes by replying to you alone at this time. I agree with you that nobody's really normal. (Actually, I'm much more worried by your lack of belief in the Easter Bunny.)Agreed, an extremely troubled person would not be the best bet (I failed everybody when I was extremely troubled). What I'm thinking of is the likelihood of success for a relationship between two people who are at, for example, a stage of full remission of depressive symptoms. But then I suppose that depends on the people and how long they are in remission etc. Good Lord, it's a jungle out there.
Nevertheless, I'm glad to hear that you have at least the anticipation of a new relationship. I suppose that a lot of this comes down to the quality of the person with whom one has the relationship. I was married to a psychologist. She was 'normal' but worked with abused wives/children. The only way she could keep afloat was to hit me with everything when she came home. Unfortunately, I come from a broken home myself, and I just couldn't take it. Communication breakdown. I don't need that again.
I'm slightly frazzled today as I had to take the iron horse to see my medicine man -- I live out of town and travelling to the big smoke is always a shock. He has just uppped my dosage from 60 to 80 mg. Maybe I'll be able to think more clearly when this kicks in. Again, I thank you for your response. Take care, (and take the pills),
Piquet.
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