Posted by Piquet on September 30, 2004, at 6:42:38
In reply to Re: Anvil Resistant Headwear? » Piquet, posted by JenStar on September 30, 2004, at 0:56:53
> Piquet, I haven't read anyone else's reply, so I'm sorry if this duplicates.
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> From your post, you seem like a very witty person with a great, wry sense of humor. I respect the way you are able to use humor to make the depressive situation more bearable.
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> I also think you sound very well-read and intellectual.
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> I know it's hard to read that much into a post, but what a positive first impression! I can only imagine that you have lots and lots of positive things to offer a potential mate. (I'd ask you out, but I'm alreay married!)
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> I guess my advice is -- you seem like such a neat person, albeit from a short message -- so chances are that many of the other mentally distressed might be similarly equipped. (blessed?) Anyway, I think that having a relationship with 2 troubled people might actually be good in a sense.
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> If one person is the "sane" one and one is the "depressed" one, that is a burden to both -- the "sane" one always needs to be the fixer, the helper, the strong rock, while the "depressed" one takes on the role of "fixee," "problem creator," and "issue maker." If you both have different issues, which hopefully hit at different times, then you can take turns talking each other down out of the tree. Then you both feel strong, needed, and partner-ish.
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> That's a simplification too, I know..and I don't want to "dis" any mentally dent-proof folks out there. But don't limit yourself...maybe you'll meet someone very cool. I hope you do, anyway.
> take care!
> JenStar
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And thanks you, JenStar, for your very complimentary and uplifting reply. After reading it several times, my head is now so big that I can dispose of my protective headwear.As a depressive with a lifelong fear of rejection, on one hand I need to find a viable method of evading those women who have just finished Advanced Assertiveness III and have decided to try out their manoeuvres on the tall chap in the corner (me), and on the other hand I have to learn how to overcome my fear -- which increases exponentially with the personal attractiveness of the women I fancy and, in that way, stop limiting myself -- as you put it so well. I have felt more confident in the past and hopefully, if or when I obtain full remission from depression, I might be more optimistic again. Thanks again for your post.
Piquet.
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