Posted by frida on April 30, 2005, at 13:41:02
In reply to Re: Shrinking Violet (hands on hips) » Dinah, posted by shrinking violet on April 30, 2005, at 13:27:11
dear shrinking violet,
oh, sweetie, my heart goes out to you--I'm so sorry about what you're going through..
I still think that you should tell your T some of what you're feeling at least...you have nothing to lose, and it's not bothering her..She worked with you, she had a commitment with you (she still has), she cares about you.. I'm sure she doesn't want you to experience all this pain..all by yourself....she can't guess what you're going through..
I think I would give it a try and tell her in an email, you are not bothering her or interrupting her weekend, it's important, and she does care about you and would want to know how you're truly feeling...
you've worked together a long time,right?
I think it would break my heart to walk away from my T with so many things unsaid.
I know you feel that it's not worth it and that you're tired and don't want to try and don't want to reach out to her..but i truly wish you could do that..I wish you could send her an email, at least a short one, telling her that you're struggling so much, that you find it hard to tell her too because you don't want to bother her, etc..but that you feel in so much pain...I hope you can let her know..
My heart goes out to you-
if i were in such a painful situation, i think I would also want to protect myself and feel that way and even angry at my T..but in the end I think I would just break down and tell her how I"m truly feeling, and I'd tell her please please help me through this..please, would you consider emailing her and telling her some of what you're feeling?
I know it's very hard and you don't want to..it just breaks my heart that you're going through this alone and your T doesn't know how you're truly feeling.
I truly believe you need to reach out to someone...
I know it's so hard to reach out and ask for help...and how easy to feel you're bothering the other person, but people care about you and they would like to know how you're feeling and at least hold you and support you through this...i'm thinking of you and sending you lots of support, I am truly sorry you're going through this...
lots of support,
Frida
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