Posted by cricket on January 27, 2006, at 9:05:31
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me? » cricket, posted by alexandra_k on January 25, 2006, at 17:44:40
> I wouldn't do any of that crap either. I would rather go for a walk in the park, go see a film, go to the theatre, or a museum, or art gallery, read a book. Have conversations about those kinds of things.
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Yes, those sound like things I might like to do too.
> Do you guys have anything in common?
No, I haven't found anything so far. I think that both of us have retreated so far into our own worlds (mine on the inside, his on the outside) that we don't even try really.
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> I think that will change in time. I do. But it won't be a change that anyone forces upon you. I think it will probably come as a growing realisation that you want more. In terms of an emotional connection with someone. In terms of a trusting relationship. Right now you probably don't think that that would ever be possible for you. That someone could really like and respect you for you. For your caring, gentle nature; for your interest in writing and stuff like that. But one day... As you start to have more liking and respect for yourself you might well start feeling a longing for something more. For someone to really connect with. Like how you are having friendships and connections on the boards and stuff. The same kind of thing but even deeper. Maybe... But I think it will take time.
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Yes, maybe even just bringing up this subject is a start.I'm just worried about you I guess. That sometimes you feel like you are just slogging through life... And for what?
Yes, I feel like that a lot these days. It's funny when my husband wakes up he raises his arms and says thank you god for another day. I just think okay another day - how am I going to get through this one.
Once I asked why he said that thank you god stuff every day. He says well one day I am going to win the lottery so I just want to get on his good side in case it's today.
Sometimes I think I should tell him I am your lottery :-)
And then thinking about... How maybe your son will grow up with a similar view on acceptable ways of treating / relating to women. I don't know...
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Yes, that is a concern. Actually I see some of it already. My son has a sense of entitlement that baffles me.> > I definitely don't have boyfriends, and no that would not be permitted at all.
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> What would he do about that?
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Yikes. I hate to think about that. He is a good man, but he acts on emotion to a great extent. Not much forethought.Thanks as always Alex.
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