Posted by cricket on January 23, 2006, at 14:59:01
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me?, posted by jonquiljo on January 23, 2006, at 14:25:30
Hi Jonquiljo,
Thanks for responding.
> There's nothing wrong with you - but there is something wrong with him.
Well yes, I guess there is something wrong with him. He needs the constant ego gratification of having multiple women drooling over him. But I know that. And I guess that's it. That's a cheap price to pay. If he just had me, then I would have to do all the drooling. I don't want to do that.You love him - and he takes you for granted obviously.
Hmmm. Not so sure about that. He needs me a lot (financially, language skills) and he is very aware of that need. Perhaps that need also feeds into his compulsion.
It sounds like he is terribly out of control.
Yeah it's too bad. I guess I worry most about him having another child with one of these women. 18 years of child support would be a real burden for both of us.It sounds to me that you've distanced yourself from his behavior.
Yeah well it is his behavior not mine.Thats normal too. When we feel pain, we back off.
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I feel pain about a lot of things, but not this. I guess that's why I was questioning how strange it seems.> Not to be jumping the gun, but are you sure it isn't time for you to move on in your life?
Well I really have moved on in my life. I don't depend or rely on him for anything. We've been together almost 15 years and I learned that the first six months.
But I'd never leave him. I love him and feel sorry for him most of the time.
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