Posted by alexandra_k on January 24, 2006, at 17:26:55
In reply to Re: What is wrong with me? » jonquiljo, posted by cricket on January 23, 2006, at 14:59:01
I think it is understandable that you don't care.
I mean... If you did care then what? You would feel really very upset about it, and to what end?
And something you struggle with is the thought that 'I am incapable of caring for another human being / having a caring relationship with another human being' and so... You probably think that you can't give him what he needs in terms of an emotional connection. So... You don't want to grudge him that...
And maybe it takes the pressure off you too. Maybe in terms of sex. Maybe in terms of an emotional connection. Because if he is getting that from other sources then it takes the pressure off you.
And so maybe... You don't think that any other kind of relationship would be possible for you.
I think it would be really very hard to have a strong emotional connection to a partner who was sleeping around. But it sounds like you guys have kind of worked out things so that each of you is able to accept what the other offers...
Maybe... As you get better you will start to want more than he can offer you. But it probably will take time.
Not sure how much sense I'm making.
Also... Yeah, I can see that pregnancy could be a concern... But if that is a concern then STD's is a very real concern as well (assuming you guys sleep together sometimes). If he is going to be doing that... Then the very least he could do would be to use a condom.
(((((Cricket)))))
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