Posted by gardenergirl on February 22, 2004, at 19:50:13
In reply to Re: What do you tell your parents?, posted by DaisyM on February 22, 2004, at 16:24:41
Oh Daisy, again, I really resonate with your post. Although I did not have to do as much as you to take care of the household, I do remember that anytime my mom had one of her "sick headaches" requiring her to take a Valium and check out for awhile, I was always so proud of my abilities to get dinner on for me and my sibs and to try to take care of my mom by giving her a backrub, etc. Thinking about that now, I see what I lost in childhood by being so adult. It's complex, though, because I was so reinforced both from 'rents and from inside for being so "adult". No wonder I am enjoying regressing so much, lately. I think regression is awesome! Let me wear pigtails again like I used to (not that you are regressed, Dinah). Let me enjoy jumping in a stack of fall leaves like a kid. Let me spin around in my desk chair.
I also learned from my T how wise it is to stop going to an empty well for support and validation. Now, I rely on my husband, friends, treasured aunt and uncle, and you Babblers for validation and support. Much better choices, if you ask me.
Daisy, you sound like a wonderful parent. Your son is so lucky. I hope you realize that in your heart of hearts!
take care,
gg
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