Posted by All Done on February 25, 2004, at 0:29:10
In reply to Re: What do you tell your parents? » All Done, posted by gardenergirl on February 24, 2004, at 9:56:29
> We have so much in common. I was just talking with my T today about my mother not having any apparent emotions. And my dad is an alcoholic, too. I haven't even considered talking to my parents at this point. I have no hope that it would help. I think for me it would just replay the past, and I'm struggling enough with that as it is.
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> Take care,
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> gg
Hi, gg! You know, I think I've noticed in some other posts that we have similar parents as well.I know what you mean about not wanting to replay the past. Just thinking about my childhood and how I was affected by my parents is all so new to me. I can't imagine rehashing it all with my mom. I would probably just end up yelling at her (or "running to my room" like I did most of my childhood and adolescence) and I don't imagine that would be very effective or worth the additional pain.
My dad passed away a year and a half ago and I think my therapist is concerned because I haven't grieved "enough". So, I end up talking about all of his good qualities and missing him a lot. But I'm starting to wonder how his alcoholism affected me. He was a "happy" drunk and some of our best one on one conversations occurred while he was inebriated. On the other hand, he spent a lot of time away from home or passed out while he was home. I probably need to explore this more fully.
Well, sorry to keep you. I hope you're reading this during a break from your work on your dissertation :). Keep up the good work! I'm impressed and proud of you for working so hard!
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