Posted by gardenergirl on February 22, 2004, at 19:40:10
In reply to What do you tell your parents?, posted by fallsfall on February 22, 2004, at 13:20:09
OMG, you might be writing about my life. Just add alcoholism to the dad and narcissism to both; change the menigitis to encephalitis, and I'm right there!
I don't share anything in therapy with my parents. I just don't want to deal with either the lack of response (which is most typical) or the emotions it could stir up in them. It's enough for me to just try to understand it myself. Perhaps a significant note: my parents never ask, and I'm not sure they even remember I'm in therapy. How brave you are for discussing it with your folks.
I did talk with my dad recently and acknowledged to him my struggles with procrastination after he talked of his own (he's writing his memoirs...snicker, narcissist! Okay, that was mean, I know.) He was dumbfounded! He went on and on about how I need to just get over it, presumably so he can keep the image in his head about how perfect his little girl was.
Lovely.
I'm sorry you had a similar situation. I know how hurtful it was to be alone like that, even if it was circumstance. Besides, you get isolated even from other kids in the hospital due to congagion risks.
Did your visitors have to gown and mask up? I felt like an alien because of that. Also, my dad and brother went to a movie and waved to me from the parking lot as I watched them go from the window. I was so upset that I couldn't go too. I still have never seen 2001 Space Odyssey.
I was so young, when the tech was saying "just a little stick here" during the spinal tap, I thought he meant that he would be poking me in the back with a stick! :) That's the nice memory.
Sorry to make this about me. But wow, such resonance when I read your post.
Take care,
gg
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