Posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 10:41:17
In reply to Why does my husband keep ruining celebrations?, posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2005, at 23:30:36
> Because he has the emotional expression skills of a turnip?
LOL, I love it; I lived with a turnip (or as I used to call him; the houseplant; never wanted to do anything or go...anywhere!) for THIRTY-ONE years (thatz right, folks), but I DID live my life the way I wanted to (always he** to pay afterwards, but i am a free spirit, and he couldn't pound it out of me), LOL
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> Because he handles his negative emotions like an adolescent?
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> Because I actually married a replicant of my father?We usually DO marry one of our parents (I inadvertently "married" my mother); took me a long time to figure that out, then I had to divorce my 'mother." LOL< LOL
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> GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
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> You know what? Once these special days are ruined, you can't ever get them back. And that just hurts more than words.I haven't read all your posts, etc., but I expect you've discussed this with him?
Say: when you do this, I feel.......fill in the blanks
Does he CARE how you feel?
If so, what is he willing to do to change the behavior that is causing you misery?
Those are a couple of excellent questions to ask the "rain on your parade" boy
My mother did it, and the ex did it; the first glimmer of excitement from ME, (which is pretty difficult for me to hide; being the efferfescent, excitable, joyful self I am, LOL) and BLAMMO-----rained all over me/ruined the joy, etc.....
> ggwrite me if you like: wacalice@aol.com
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