Posted by gardenergirl on October 30, 2005, at 22:09:01
In reply to Re: Why does my husband keep ruining celebrations? » gardenergirl, posted by TofuEmmy on October 30, 2005, at 8:15:37
> It's the turnip thing sweetie. As you know, I'm oh so famliar with the problem. Seems like when anything emotional happens it's as if their ability to cope is overwhelmed and they revert to childhood behaviors...like pouting, causing ouchies, exiting grumpily, sulking, etc.
That's pretty much it. Tonight we got into yelling and sarcasm, too. Lovely.
>I don't understand it either. Not that *I* haven't been known to engage in any of the above behaviors....but that's different. :-)
Yeah, me too. But I don't know that intentionally hurting him has ever been on my radar. It's the admitted intentional part that I just can't get over.
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> Really, I think our tolerance for emtional stuff, the good and the bad, is just higher. These gentlemen need a) to want to be different b) to work on adding healthy communication skills. I never got past "a" with mine. ("I yam what I yam...")Sorry about not getting past step A. Mine hasn't exactly admitted to wanting to change, either. Although he's at the point of admitting he made a mistake. I'm not sure he's apologized, and I can't feel any remorse. But then it's hard to empathize with a turnip.
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> Miss ya snuggle buns, emmyYou too. Have fun at your upcoming thingy.
gg
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