Posted by Tamar on October 30, 2005, at 6:17:44
In reply to Why does my husband keep ruining celebrations?, posted by gardenergirl on October 29, 2005, at 23:30:36
> Because he has the emotional expression skills of a turnip?
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> Because he handles his negative emotions like an adolescent?
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> Because I actually married a replicant of my father?
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> GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR(((((Gardenergirl)))))
I’m sorry. It’s so disappointing to look forward to a special day and then find it doesn’t go the way you’d hoped.
> You know what? Once these special days are ruined, you can't ever get them back. And that just hurts more than words.
Yeah. I know that my husband and I are actually particularly likely to argue on birthdays and anniversaries. And maybe it’s because we’re trying hard to make it nice, but have different ideas about what would be nice. Also, there’s a certain pressure to perform that can be stressful. Sometimes people find the pressure too much and end up being neglectful…
But it’s such a shame when you’ve been anticipating a celebration and then the other person does the wrong thing, or neglects you. It’s true, you can’t get those times back.
And yet, I agree with Laurie that the most special times are often those that haven’t been planned. I’m wishing you one of those very soon.
Tamar
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