Posted by sunny10 on November 3, 2004, at 12:16:01
In reply to Re: Is it really important to be in love?, posted by tampagirl70 on November 3, 2004, at 10:22:09
I am finding it interesting that you use the term "cycle", as in hmmmmm, aaha?
Do you see a T and a pdoc? Pdoc could help you figure out if the problem is really with obsessing as an illness and prescribe something that will help with this. The T could help you figure out why you're adding stress to your "near-perfect" relationship. You say that this is your first long-term relationship...
I can't "shrink" you, but let me just tell you what a couple of T's have told me about myself.
My low self-esteem (everything is always my fault) acts together with a fear of abandonment and I wind up completely obsessing that I'm somehow "messing up and if I don't get it together," I will lose my mate. (which I sometimes try to protect myself against by doing the "ending" myself one way or the other)
If that sounds anything like you, maybe your T can help.
A situation that you can isolate makes it a lot easier to deal with. Deal with it while it's still on a small scale, would be my advice- of course, take everything I say with a grain of salt- I'm on these boards for reasons just like you...
-sunny10
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