Posted by alexandra_k on November 5, 2004, at 0:46:42
In reply to Is it really important to be in love?, posted by crushedout on October 17, 2004, at 0:51:28
Hmm. Seems I had the opposite problem! When I was a teenager I thought that I was gay for a time. Actually, I didn't go in for the labels all that much, gay, bi, I didn't care - but the point was that I thought I was attracted to females.
Then I got into a lesbian relationship when I was 16. It was fine for the first few months, but then I made a discovery: I wasn't sexually attracted to females after all. If that's whats going on for you but in reverse then I do think that you need to be honest with your boyfriend and yourself about where you are at with that.
I stayed in the relationship for 4 years. Emotional security, financial security, mother figure etc etc. We argued about sex all the time and eventually it became a power and control thing. It was guaranteed to bring on the guilts for me because I felt so bad that I did not reciprocate. I figured that the friendship thing was the most important thing for a relationship. But, well, don't you want someone who you want to be intimate with as well?
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