Posted by sunny10 on November 3, 2004, at 9:14:18
In reply to Re: Is it really important to be in love?, posted by tampagirl70 on November 2, 2004, at 16:45:23
yes, I think the real question is "what is love?"
I can't speak for you guys, but for me it is subjective because I KNOW I'm looking for stars in my eyes, rainbows, Prince Charming, et cetera... you know, the things that LOGICALLY do not exist. Most of the time, I can tell that if I AM feelings stars, rainbows, et cetera,it usually means that I am in one of my irrational phases and the relationship is PURELY "hormonal".
I am TRYING for the "relationship built of trust, respect, friendship, and fun" right now. So far, he is great with all of it except the trust part, which he withholds from me to protect himself. (and he thinks that if he hurts my feelings, I might try to kill myself again- he knows my past; I have no secrets)Right now, though, those secrets he keeps are triggering my fear of abandonment, who knows where the relationship will go, but at least this time we are trying "an adult- non-"hormone only" relationship...
I think that a lot of respect, trust, and friendship can work wonderfully with a copy of the Kama Sutra.....Then you get the hormone tweak, too !!
-sunny10
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