Posted by alexandra_k on October 17, 2004, at 4:07:27
In reply to Is it really important to be in love?, posted by crushedout on October 17, 2004, at 0:51:28
I think that maybe 'being in love' might mean a couple of different things. There is love that needs time to build and arises out of friendship and trust, and there is the buzz of the old hormones. Sometimes the messages don't quite gel. I seem to have difficulty getting both at the same time, and I wonder sometimes whether the first might actually preclude the second, but then I hear that there are relationships where people have both.
I find that the buzz passes. A couple of months and its gone. But then it is hard to have a relationship with someone if none of those feelings are there.
Maybe you could try to think of something to get the buzz back into your relationship?
Or maybe this is a symptom showing you that it is time to move on as you need something more from a relationship?
I have no idea...
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