Posted by alexandra_k on November 5, 2004, at 15:46:48
In reply to Re: Is it really important to be in love? » alexandra_k, posted by crushedout on November 5, 2004, at 0:53:54
hey there crushedout. I am sorry to misunderstand you, but I think you have clarified the situation a bit.
> As for honesty, I have never lied to either myself or my boyfriend. He's known from the very beginning that I'm a lesbian and that I don't think I could ever fall in love with him. It's one of the things I liked so much about him -- that he was confident enough in himself to deal with that rejection and patient enough to see what happens between us even though I was so discouraging.
> I've never been good at lying to myself about much of anything.I am sorry, I hope that you didn't feel that I was accusing you of lying. Maybe I am reading too much of myself into your situation.
It sounds like the situation is pretty complicated. But I guess that if you don't think you can fall in love with a guy then don't you worry a bit about making the eventual breakup harder on him by encouraging his attachment? I mean, if he thinks he is in love with you. But then maybe he doesn't know and just wants to wait and see where things go as well as you.
I don't know. SOunds to me like you would be better off with a female.
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