Posted by alexandra_k on October 17, 2004, at 4:12:15
In reply to Re: Is it really important to be in love? » crushedout, posted by alexandra_k on October 17, 2004, at 4:07:27
Sorry, just reread your post.
I stayed in a relationship for 4 years when I was not 'in love' with my partner. I stayed because my partner was like a parent to me. I had security: a house, car, pets, money - all the material things I thought I could want.
But although my partner was my best friend I wasn't in love. I felt so bad about the situation (once I realised that I wasn't in love) that I ended up in hospital (my first hospitalisation) with a major depressive episode. My partner gave up so very much to be with me and I was gutted, but I couldn't make myself feel something I did not.
I don't know what to say.
I know that the above is just my experience.
But if you know deep inside yourself that you do not love this person then you will only feel worse later if you try to keep up a pretense.
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