Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2011, at 15:38:13
In reply to Re: Shaken, saw T » Dinah, posted by Anemone on July 13, 2011, at 15:20:19
Hmmm... Perhaps there are aspects of her real self that her clients don't really need to see. My therapist tells me when he's angry with me, but he generally doesn't act it out. That's a good role model for me.
She was ok with you after the knife? I'm not sure how my therapist would have reacted to that.
I'm glad she eventually realized that her behavior was coming more from her own needs than your best interests. Hopefully she'll be able to make a course correction now. That's one thing I really like about my therapist. Once he *sees* something, he does do his best to correct it.
Though I suppose no matter how they try, their issues will crop up from time to time. That's one area I think therapist self disclosure is a good thing. Not that I needed my therapist to admit that he reacts badly to criticism. I'd already figured it out. But it's good that it's an accepted truth between us. Now you know a truth about her. She needs for her clients to succeed so she can feel like a successful therapist. That's ok, as long as you both keep it in mind.
I do hope this will enable you to deepen your relationship to one where you both feel able to respectfully speak the truth. Although she should *always* evaluate her words to make sure they are ultimately in your best interests rather than her own. That's what makes it therapy rather than friendship. That's what limits it as a relationship, but that's also what makes it work as therapy.
You must be bored senseless by my therapy journey. lol. Just as with anyone else, the same themes keep cycling over and over. Because no matter how much progress I make, he's still him and I'm still me and there are areas where we just don't mesh smoothly. We let each other down in the same way, over and over. And we probably redeem ourselves in more or less the same way. This last time, I thought it was the end. In some ways, it was the end of something.
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