Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2011, at 17:03:11
In reply to Re: Shaken, saw T » Dinah, posted by Anemone on July 13, 2011, at 16:07:22
Ugh. Now that I would *not* like. Not a bit.
When my therapist is good, he's very very good. But when he's bad, he can indeed be horrid. He's not always a good therapist from an objective or subjective point of view. But he does have areas of brilliance. And I think I keep him on his toes and demand that he be a good therapist as much as he can be, while still maintaining the strength of the relationship. I think perhaps I credit myself more than him for that, because I work a heck of a lot harder at it. But he does have a sense of humor, thank heavens.
So yes, at times I do criticize him. At times he deserves criticism. I try to be nice and light about it, at least at first. But if that doesn't work and bad behavior continues, I can definitely be critical.
My posts are sad? I suppose I find that a bit surprising. Unless maybe you're reading after Katrina when he told me he couldn't be my therapist anymore? That was sad. It's terrible to be going through a huge trauma and have the people in your life you rely on going through a huge trauma themselves. That was the worst part about Katrina. There wasn't anyone in a hundred mile radius who hadn't gone through a trauma. Who had probably suffered worse than I did. Lost more than I had. Usually even when something bad happens, there are people around to offer support who are in a relatively stable place themselves. Some people stayed more balanced than others. But there was no normality anywhere. None.
I'm glad it's over and I hope no one has to ever again experience anything like it.
But I suppose the good thing is that there has been a happy enough (most of the time) ending for those who believe in forever therapy. Some of the intensity has gone, so I think I'm less dependent on him. But we have maintained a (mostly) working relationship. Through thick and thin, abandonment and re-commitment. Just like any long term relationship.
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