Posted by emmanuel98 on July 12, 2011, at 20:17:38
In reply to Re: T has always been good, now is stupid butthead » Dinah, posted by Anemone on July 12, 2011, at 17:19:01
Wow! If my T or p-doc nagged me and provoked me like that, I would leave for sure. If I have a plan and can't seem to get going on it, my p-doc will question me closely about what's holding me back -- low self-esteem, fear of failure, anxiety -- and try to figure out how to be more aware of emotional barriers so I can move forward. My DBT therapist would make concrete suggestions for how to move forward. Like spend twenty minutes a day on it even it it provokes anxiety and be aware of the anxiety, note it, note how it feels, keep a diary of it, but don't let it overwhelm you.
I know how deeply dependent and lovestruck one can feel with a T, but your T doesn't sound very good. Once my p-doc said he felt frustrated by my depression. I got upset later and called him and he said it was not me, but the situation that was frustrating. He felt frustrated and I felt frustrated. Maybe, he said, the best thing we can do right now is share our mutual frustration. It made me feel so much better when he said that, made me realize that he cares and has emotional reactions to me that impact his life.
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