Posted by Dinah on July 12, 2011, at 16:47:53
In reply to T has always been good, now is stupid butthead, posted by Anemone on July 12, 2011, at 15:59:21
Did she say anything more about her motives? I thought you *had* gotten angry and told her?
I really don't understand her motivation.
Mind you, mine was oddly pleased when I called him and called him a s***-faced b*st*rd. Said something about being glad I expressed my anger so directly. But he hadn't deliberately tried to provoke that anger.
I'd like to hear more about why she thought this would be helpful, but like you I don't really see the point of paying to have her explain very odd behavior.
Did you talk about the new technique at all? Did that somehow play into her behavior?
My therapist really can be a not very good therapist at times. Other times he's very good. It probably shouldn't be the case that their own stuff interferes with therapy. But the truth is that it does. I suppose it's up to you to decide if there's enough good there to try again, or if it's better to throw in the towel.
I took a month or so off from therapy and have tried to rebuild the relationship. When I came back, things sort of got back to what they should be. If they hadn't, I think I would have left again.
Not that it's ever possible to actually forget. The things that happen in a relationship become part of that relationship.
Is there enough left to try for again? You have no obligation to try to save a bad therapy relationship just because it once was good.
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