Posted by Anemone on July 13, 2011, at 16:07:22
In reply to Re: Shaken, saw T » Anemone, posted by Dinah on July 13, 2011, at 15:38:13
Dinah,
It's funny that your T tells you when he's angry with you but not act it out, and you think it's a good role model. I thought so too, until my T seems to want me to "stop being a plastic doll" and start being human. I have always thought it was good to be calm and slow to anger?
Not sure she is OK with the knife, I think she is glad to see I can be angry, but at the end of session when I asked if she was OK, she said I have to stop worrying about how she feels, she can take care of herself. Now I feel an urge to call her and apologize.
Your T sounds good, it takes a good T to correct his mistakes. But, my T thinks her behavior WAS in my best interests, because she thinks I need to see her real self and it's good for me to stop pretending relationships can't have conflict in them. She is intending to keep this up, not going to correct it. I am scared and want my warm fuzzy T back, but it's too late now.
I will tell her "Dinah says you should say only what's in my best interests."
I am not there yet in your long T story, do you criticize him a lot? I'll have to catch up. But I'm glad he realizes he reacts badly to criticism.
I listen to Babble archives most days when I am painting. My apple computer can read out loud. I sometimes find your stories too sad to read, though, I feel for you so much, I admit I skipped some that are too sad, but love it when your T picks nose. Yes, you have same themes over and over again, but it's always interesting. I haven't gotten to your "last time"yet, I hope things are OK with your therapy, I know how important this is for you.
( Thanks for wishing me good nap this morning. )
Anemone
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