Posted by Karen_kay on February 3, 2004, at 11:40:18
Hello, it's me again with another question. And I'm so glad that everyone answers. Have I told you all lately how very wonderful you are? (Yes, that's me kissing up, but it's sweet, right?)
So, I was told today by Bubba that I'm not able to form any type of emotional attachment. This came when I told him (Bless me for being so honest and please don't hate me but, here goes) that I would leave my boyfriend if something better came along. I tend to think of relationships like cars. (OH, typing this out it sound horrible, but I'm REALLY not a bad person... PLEASE believe me....) If someone who treats you better, or comes from a better family, or has traits that you like better, or is better looking, or has (Gasp!) more money, ect comes along, why not trade him in for a newer model? I was under the impression that everyone felt that way..... And it's not that I would compromise my safety (as in go with someone who mistreats me) but if someone that I thought...What's the point in trying to explain or make excuses here...Listen up,,, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, going on six and I have absolutely NO emotional attachment to him. None! And I'm that way essentially with my friends..... I do have attachment with my sisters, but that's it.
He says it's because of my unstable mother and the abuse from my father. Anywho... He says that he can hope to "correct" it by forming a relationship (nothing unprofessional of course) with me..... Now, how in the world? Huh? So, I'm supposed to get emotionally attached to him? But, I honestly think at this point I am, to a certain degree. Moreso than I am with my boyfriend (Ouch! that's pretty bad, isn't it?) I think I'm just typing out loud. But, what does that mean exactly. I'm supposed to get emotionally attached to someone that's just going to leave my life. Isn't that just setting me up for disaster?
poster:Karen_kay
thread:308879
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040131/msgs/308879.html