Posted by Dinah on February 3, 2004, at 16:45:37
In reply to I'm glad you're here :) » Racer, posted by Karen_kay on February 3, 2004, at 15:14:13
I think your thinking is perfect for your age. You can't just grab the first likely guy and... Well, wait. That's what I did. And it worked out ok.
I think that in the end it comes to a commitment, not a feeling. When you meet someone you would like to be your kids' dad and someone you can share every day with for the rest of your life, you make a commitment that you'll make that happen. That doesn't mean you won't meet someone down the road that you think might have been a better choice. It just means you don't act on it because of the commitment (and because everyone looks better when you haven't been with them for a while and watched them wipe their nose pickins on their legs).
But you shouldn't make that commitment till you're ready.
I'm not a big one for emotional attachment either. That came up in the schizotypal diagnosis. But, like with so many of us, it's a matter of trust. I'm a virtual leech once I do trust someone and get attached. But that doesn't mean I call them twenty times a day or anything. Once you're comfortable with your own company, you don't have to worry that suddenly you won't be.
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