Posted by alexandra_k on February 1, 2014, at 17:24:28
In reply to Re: the natural order » alexandra_k, posted by europerep on February 1, 2014, at 15:19:04
i know you are right. people from 'privileged' backgrounds often have a very hard time of things, too, in a bit of a different way. there can be considerable pressure on them to do well and to become doctors or engineers or whatever... and sometimes they might really want to become something like a High School English Teacher because they really relish the thought of working with kids and getting them doing drama and writing poems and...
Or they might want more of a 9-5 job. Something... More of a job. They want to be able to walk away from their job at the end of the day and be able to invest a lot more in their family / their social / their extracurricular stuff.
Try explaining that to some parents... I think that is part of why people are happy to believe 'it is so really very hard!!!' because then it gives people an out. They can say to their family 'I tried but I failed!' then hopefully they will feel bad for them and not give them a hard time.
And you are right about the love thing, too, of course. I've met many a ... soulless?? Upper class house. And just because Mum knows about embryology doesn't mean she wants to talk about it with you at the end of the day. Assuming she isn't still in the lab, at any rate.
Life sucks for everybody, heh.
I think it is more about acceptance vs expectation.
Keep coming back to that speech... Don't mourn for us / me... Whatever it was... Don't mourn for your child that your child is autistic / an artist / a wanna be scientist / a boat builder / a gymnast / whatever... Mourn for the ideal you had of the child you wanted... Mourn the loss of that... Then put it away... And there is your child.
I think things will be okay for me. The English chick was fine... Piecing things together now... I think she is an advocate for me. The admin chick... Well... I think I'm supposed to be finding excuses to email her about this and that and I think I'm supposed to be loitering in her hallway trying to suck up... I think that is the expectation. Which is probably why English chick asked me about Autism... And left the interview criterion on the table before leaving to ask admin chick something for a minute... They need to prioitise my application because I"m an applicant with disability. I score highly on their criterion because I have my life in order: I will prioritise the program. I don't have kids / family to juggle. I don't have transport issues. Someone just needs to be clear with admin chick that the point of her getting a vote isn't for her to vote for the kids who suck up to her the most. There is an actual criterion...
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