Posted by TamaraJ on February 26, 2005, at 9:01:49
In reply to Re: Kara, my turn. How you are doing? » TamaraJ, posted by KaraS on February 25, 2005, at 23:27:39
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> I hope that once you start work you'll still come here to talk. You would be very missed if you didn't. Besides we can still offer you a lot of support as you enter back into the work world. But it will be better for you to have more outside interests as well.
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-- You are very kind, thanks. I know I will still be able to visit babble. The emphathy, support and good advice have been a Godsend these past number of months. I had put my outside interests on hold for a while, but I think I just needed a break from it all. So, I will ease my way back in . . . slowly. Try not to go full force like I usually do.
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> I doubt that the accupressure would work against a drug or supplement that was making things worse. Maybe without that kind of negative influence, you might succeed with it. Then again, maybe it just wasn't for you. I'll let you know if I have more success.
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-- The tapping sure didn't. I was tapping, and tapping and tapping . . . It just wouldn't stop the extreme agitation and racing thoughts I was experiencing. And, my boss was coming over for lunch that day. I was so worried that he'd get here and I would be all agitated and talking a mile a minute, etc. I finally had to take a Xanax. That worked - phew!
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> Yeah, I'll have my own room to go to and we'll probably be on different schedules so it'll be ok. As for her taste, she thinks she has the best taste. She works in catering and she goes to the homes of really wealthy people. I've worked a couple of times with her so I know that she sees houses that are beautifully decorated. How she can't tell the difference between that and her place is beyond me. She also sets up buffet tables and seated tables and decorates them nicely for her job so she thinks she's an artist and that her taste is wonderful. You'd really have to see her place to believe how ugly it is. Everything is dark, very dark, wtih barely an inch of free space anywhere. Horrible dark old pictures are on the wall. I tell her outright how horrible her taste is. I tell her to get rid of certain really ugly things. She just laughs it off. She has decided that I just don't appreciate her good taste. (Everyone I know of who has seen her place thinks it's horrendous so it's not just my opinion.)
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-- I guess your friend has never heard of the concept "less is more" :-) How can people be so oblivious? Well, to get a message across that might sink in, you could always send a picture of her living room to Oprah for her "The Ugliest Room in America" segment. Now, if Oprah says it's ugly, then she'll have to wake up and smell the coffee! (double meow). But seriously, at least you know you can be blunt and honest with her about things. That will make a big difference when you are sharing a place with her. I hope it works out for you.
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> Wow, that's scary!!! Since you continued writing I'm assuming that it all turned out ok. I bet you'll be keeping your door shut and locked from now on...
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-- Crisis averted. I managed to calm down, in spite of the fact that my dog, every ten minutes or so, kept running from the front door to the patio door barking. She never barks, and every time she did, I just about jumped out of my skin. I had a flashback to when I was ten years old and I was home alone with my baby brother while I parents had gone to the store. So, I'm sitting there and these two guys come to the door. One of the says "Is your daddy home?" No. "Is your mommy home?" No. "Well, we've come to rob the house!" I went nuts! Screaming and yelling, and terrified that they would hurt my baby brother who I had been entrusted to take care of. Anyway, the next door neighbors (aunt and uncle who are not really but called that because they are such good friends) come running over. This guy is totally embarrassed, and finally manages to tell us that he was just there to pick up field markers for an upcoming soccer tournament (my dad was very active in the soccer association at the time). Needless to say, he never showed his face at our place again!>
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> I'll have to see what I can do. Unfortunately I just don't have the energy to go shopping around for the best deals. I just want the stuff gone and I don't want to have to worry about where to store it. My anxiety is creeping up just thinking about it all.
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-- One step at a time. Just give yourself small, move-related goals for each day or every few days. You will get through this. And, the nice thing is is that you have a couple of months to get ready. So, that takes some of the pressure off. And, when it is over, you can breath a sigh of relief.
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> How frustrating for you that they won't accept what you're going through. It's hard enough with this condition without having to prove that you really have a problem. I think that with mothers they worry that they might have done something wrong and are responsible if we don't do well or they'd prefer to think that they didn't pass on any genetic predisposition towards this. It's too scary for them to even consider it.
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-- They have been a bit better lately. The heads have come out of the sand a bit. I have, for the most part, always been so active and upbeat that they just aren't used to it. They tend to depend on me for calm reassurance and positive reinforcement, especially my mom and my younger brother. My younger brother can not handle it when I am sick. He gets so upset. I think if my mom would just accept her dysthamia, then she would be more empathetic. But, as far as she's concerned, that's what life is all about and you just keep muddling through. I know it must be hard for a parent when one of their children goes through any illness. The need and instinct to protect and make everything better is so strong in a lot of parents.
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> I can't wait to hear what he has to say and whether he can in fact make a difference with these kinds of problems.
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-- I'm hoping he can help. He seems to have quite a following, so he must be doing something right.
> Talk to you again soon. Take care,Tamara
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