Posted by jonquiljo on May 12, 2006, at 15:19:16
In reply to Re: Avoiding sex with my wife. » curtm, posted by antigua on May 11, 2006, at 17:00:28
Antigua,
Sorry - csa is rough. I'm glad you've found some ways to deal with it. It sounds like your husband is a really nice guy. All men want to have sex all the time (most men) - its kind of hormonal - so I can understand why he sometimes wants to be "nice". Of course in regular life it would make you want him more.
Its kind of sad the biological difference that make men more libidinous than women - at least indiscriminantly so. Since sex is better now than it was 10 years ago - thats a plus.
My situation is difficult. I think there are major issues in my marriage that I must just accept for being the way they are. I'm pretty convinced that things most likely will never change. While thats terribly unfortunate - sometime unfortunate must be accepted. And believe me, I am not a passive person. Since I truly love my wife - I probably must accept the way it is - since leaving is not an option for me. It doesn't make it less frustrating, however. Oh well - I'm in my 50's and had many good sexual years. Probably its kind of like losing a limb - I need to accept things and move on. Crying in my soup won't do me any good.
Just trying to make the best of my very limited options.
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