Posted by jonquiljo on May 10, 2006, at 14:20:39
In reply to Re: Avoiding sex with my wife. » jonquiljo, posted by curtm on May 10, 2006, at 8:57:58
I seem to be the last one to understand whats going on - certainly my thereapist hasn't a clue as well.
Our relationship is close - very close - soulmates, in fact. If anything, our relationship was hyper-sexual in the beginning. We still find each other attractive. Over the past 10 years or so, sex has dwindled to nothing. We talk about it, say that we should do it ... and then nothing ever happens.
And believe me, I want it to happen. I started HRT (testosterone) treatment - for middle age recently - and my libido is back to that of an 18 year old boy. She has take testosterone for years for the same thing.
But there's always an excuse why not. Granted they are viable excuses at the time - but you think we could have squeezed out a short romantic interlude amongst all the chaos and pain. But to no avail. And no, she is not seeing anyone else.
It really has destroyed my self-esteem. I may be a bit older (53), but am still OK looking and in good shape. It just makes me feel very very worthless.
I think I'm just going to have to resign myself to accept it for what it is. I'm not going to seek sex anywhere else - as I love her very much. But it really hurts in ways I cannot even begin to describe.
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