Posted by fairywings on October 13, 2005, at 15:53:38
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by caraher on October 13, 2005, at 11:29:13
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> Hmmm... there has to be a LOT of tension! ;) Most of the time I'd say no... though sometimes if I can't sleep I do become sleepy afterward, so I guess maybe that is about tension. But I guess I don't feel that need for speed you refer to.Oh caraher, I love it when you jump in on these things! You're so funny, and honest too, that's good. It's just not fair that men can't be multi-orgasmic. Well I guess they CAN with some work, but I guess it's not the "norm" is it?
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> Well, not that most of us guys spend a lot of time talking about it, either. I think one huge difference is that, whether for cultural or biological reasons, women typically take longer to learn to do it.I think some of that is the stigma, and some of that is that a woman's body is more complicated. I mean with a guy, it's just kind of there! With a woman, you have to explore different areas to find what feels best where.
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> There is still something of a stigma to it for men in that if it is your *sole* source of release you're "less of a man" somehow. "Here I am, doing this again - what a loser!"Oh see, I think that's what we all need to get over. Quit beating ourselves UP about it. It's not like we say, "here I am cooking this dinner (or insert anything else we do regularly that's acceptable) again, what a loser!"
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> As for "femininity," I suppose under some ideas about what is and is not "feminine" it may not be. But - and I'm sure I'm not alone in this - I think a woman seeking pleasure is more feminine in a natural senseYeah, I guess you're right, and from what I understand men think it's a turn on. Not that I'd want to do that, because I'm too inhibited, but ............
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