Posted by Susan47 on October 16, 2005, at 11:57:51
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Susan47, posted by Tamar on October 14, 2005, at 12:19:38
> > It's the vibrator that causes numbness
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> In that case, I really think you should try lube.
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> Also, don't press too hard with the vibrator... and keep it moving. You might also need a lower speed. If you start to go numb, stop and wait a few minutes and the feeling should come back.
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> Still not an expert...
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> Tamar
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I did try lube, it's great but didn't do anything for numbness. Regarding lube, actually, I have a super femme personal query and I know you guys have answers, if you want to share. Nobody knows us so we should be okay, right? So here's the question, when you're super active sexually and you're, like, in the middle of your day and you suddenly think you wet your pants but you know you didn't, and all this post-orgasmic fluid comes suddenly gushing out all at once, and you have to actually go and change your panties AND YOUR PANTS.. don't you kind of feel like a little kid who's done something naughty? Also, how did all that stuff stay in there so long AND I never knew women could produce that much fluid. Really. Esp. when the G-spot, that seems to be a Huge manufacturer of sexual fluid. But having this happen hours after sex, and I mean, it's all mine, right, no man involved ... and having to change clothing, I mean, Really. Really, how strange. It's like, oops I better be discreet or my secret will be Out.
It's, like, when you're breast-feeding and overfull and having your breasts leak in public, suddenly there's this incredibly powerful thing happen to your body and you have No Control.Discovered I'm multiply orgasmic AND I have this ability, which I read about but never knew I could ever get to, to delay my orgasms and play with my excitement level, I can make the O laSt longer and longer if I want to, or make it happen Now .. I love this, I love it because I've never had it before and it's a great new toy and it's ME. Do you guys feel that way? Lots of women have had this all their life, and excuse me, but you're just a cause for me to be super Jealous and feeling like that little girl I really was, who was never getting the point, never good enough and always left out :). Question for the girls and boys too if there's any reading or into replying.. so how long can you make your O last? I haven't actually timed it but I think mine's about 40 sec, somebody here can make it last, like, an hour. Remember reading that? Rod, I think. Rod. Hah, appropriate name. :)
Tamar, thanks for the advice about keeping it moving, I figured that out too, yesterday. Actually I think a couple of things were happening, I seem to have gotten past it yesterday, what it was is as you were saying, I wasn't keeping it moving, and I learned it's better sometimes from the side, or the top, the top when it vibe is hitting the pubic symphisis at the same time as what feels like maybe part of the clitoral root, well, that's pure heavy, Baby.
Okay, enough smutty talk. Sorry. I also discovered, and now this is about Orgasms, okay? So don't freak out and be warned if you're still reading, but yesterday I discovered so many things.
I had one of those epiphanies, those realizations that happen sometimes when you're super-relaxed and meditative and focussed.
And I was having sex, and suddenly really enjoying it for my own body, feeling like my body is loaded with what I was thinking of almost as sexual Fruit .. how my breasts are full, you know, thank God they feel good to touch, they having something inside them. Anyway, they're sexy, I'm looking at the skin details too, if you know what I mean, and I'm thinking, what a beautiful colour and gorgeous shape and it feels so soft and silky yet hard and sexy too. And I've never let myself think that way before.
And this memory of being about four years old suddenly came, and I came to a sudden realization of something and it was something I'd been working on in my EMDR therapy, and BANG there it was, a detail we hadn't even discussed in the therapy because it was so deep I never had acknowledged this to myself, and so much of my sexual life suddenly made sense.
Don't we have a Sexuality Board? Because this is ridiculous.
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