Posted by Tamar on October 13, 2005, at 15:40:28
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS, posted by caraher on October 13, 2005, at 11:29:13
> Hmmm... there has to be a LOT of tension! ;) Most of the time I'd say no... though sometimes if I can't sleep I do become sleepy afterward, so I guess maybe that is about tension. But I guess I don't feel that need for speed you refer to.
It’s good to get a man’s input on this stuff…
> Well, not that most of us guys spend a lot of time talking about it, either. I think one huge difference is that, whether for cultural or biological reasons, women typically take longer to learn to do it. So for us guys it's not such a big deal, you're on a hair trigger as an adolescent and there are few apparent mysteries (except for the opposite sex).
I used to talk about it to my male friends when I was a teenager, before I had any idea of how to do it myself. I was very curious about how guys do it. It turned out there were a lot of different methods!
> There is still something of a stigma to it for men in that if it is your *sole* source of release you're "less of a man" somehow. "Here I am, doing this again - what a loser!"
I think the same is probably true for women, at least to some extent.
> As for "femininity," I suppose under some ideas about what is and is not "feminine" it may not be. But - and I'm sure I'm not alone in this - I think a woman seeking pleasure is more feminine in a natural sense of the word than a woman who suppresses that side of herself. It's beyond me how any man would prefer a "cold fish" to a woman who masturbates...
Nicely put! Yeah, I agree. And apparently many women don’t like the idea of their partner masturbating. They seem to think if a man’s getting sex with a woman he shouldn’t be having sex by himself as well. But I think the idea of a man who finds pleasure in his own body is much more appealing than a man who never explores his sexuality except with a partner…
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