Posted by caraher on October 13, 2005, at 11:29:13
In reply to Re: VIBRATORS » Susan47, posted by fairywings on October 12, 2005, at 23:07:16
> > I've never heard of the F-spot. I haven't played with the G-spot for a while either. Lately it's like all I want to do is release some tension. Isn't that supposed to be more of a male trait? Do you guys ever just do it to release tension, like, the faster you get off the better?
Hmmm... there has to be a LOT of tension! ;) Most of the time I'd say no... though sometimes if I can't sleep I do become sleepy afterward, so I guess maybe that is about tension. But I guess I don't feel that need for speed you refer to.
> LOL, I think it's just that everyone's always KNEW that guys do it, and it's expected! I think women do it, and just don't talk about it, and won't admit it.
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> I guess some ppl wouldn't consider it to be very feminine, but neither is being b*tchy because you're h*rny as all get out and have no release!Well, not that most of us guys spend a lot of time talking about it, either. I think one huge difference is that, whether for cultural or biological reasons, women typically take longer to learn to do it. So for us guys it's not such a big deal, you're on a hair trigger as an adolescent and there are few apparent mysteries (except for the opposite sex).
There is still something of a stigma to it for men in that if it is your *sole* source of release you're "less of a man" somehow. "Here I am, doing this again - what a loser!"
As for "femininity," I suppose under some ideas about what is and is not "feminine" it may not be. But - and I'm sure I'm not alone in this - I think a woman seeking pleasure is more feminine in a natural sense of the word than a woman who suppresses that side of herself. It's beyond me how any man would prefer a "cold fish" to a woman who masturbates...
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