Posted by Susan47 on July 19, 2005, at 21:02:42 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:51:26 | original URL]
In reply to Thanks everyone again » Jen Star, posted by pinkeye on July 19, 2005, at 20:16:19
Hi pinkeye,
I was really sorry to read what's been happening to you. It does take courage to leave, but also, things sometimes get so bad for people that there's no other choice, it's leave or die or live in misery. I hate being alone. I left my marriage well over a year ago, and the marriage itself was horrible for many years, so bad that the children really suffered, I think, from emotional trauma. When you do go back to India, try not to close all doors behind you in the States. I understand women in India are still seen as disposable commodities to many men, and husbands maiming wives, and even murder, isn't as uncommon as it is here. Your husband may be better here than he will be in India; society does have an effect on people, so him knowing that the way he treats you isn't acceptable here may be masking an attitude which may become more prevalent once back in India.
Be careful.
I hope your fear of being alone subsides with time. And you can make a better choice for yourself in your life. And I know because being alone is very very harsh, for me, I absolutely want to die, sometimes I think being dead is better than all the time I spend alone, and I get so depressed.. it's just me I guess, I want people around me... but on the whole I'm a healthier person away from the ex-. It wasn't easy. If you get to the point where you absolutely have to leave him because you can't take it, you will find the strength and the courage you think you don't have now. I believe that, and I believe in you, too; you'll be able to build a good life.
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