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Thanks again.. something I did to educate hubby

Posted by pinkeye on July 20, 2005, at 14:03:58 [reposted on July 22, 2005, at 0:51:26 | original URL]

In reply to Re: Thanks everyone again » pinkeye, posted by Jen Star on July 19, 2005, at 23:44:26

Thanks a lot everyone again..

I couldn't leave.. and I don't think I can ever get the guts to leave and make a better life..

I feel my husband basically wants to be a good guy.. and I decided to somehow make him realize it himself how bad his doings are.. So I told him what I read about abusive men.. how the pattern repeats - how they hit, and then say sorry and apologize and cry, and go back to hitting again after a month. He said he will consider therapy if it persists. He thinks he might get over it if we go back to India, but I don't think so. Because just 3 - 4 days back, I had completely said ok to going back, even he watned to stay here for some more time, but I was telling him that we needed to go back atleast for 6 months. So I don't think it has anything to do with India/US.

But I am planning to educate him more myself, and see if that would help. I have been trying to do that a lot these past few years.. I have been trying to put some sense into him in every oppurtunity that I get.. (thanks to a suggestion I had from my ex T).. and hopefully, it will solve things.

I am sorry about not replying to individual posters.. I am just drained of energy a little bit. Thanks so much for your concern and support and offer to help. I am not in a dire situation.. I am working, and have some money in the bank for myself, I have a Green Card, and I have lot of relatives in India who I can go to for help if needed. So there is no need to go to women shelter or anything for now. Worst case, I can catch the next plane to India and go back to my family and refuse to go to my husband again. He doesn't have much social support in India - not too many relatives, but I do. There are lots of people who will come to help me if needed. And in my town, I am very respected, and my family is well known, so there really is no issue of being afraid for my safety if I go back.

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